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Post by Nikan on Jan 14, 2024 15:15:16 GMT
I'll risk to sound like a cave-man just for bringing up this question... but my experience is that, if you haven't really "grown up" (to handle some unspeakable tension) it'll only happen if they do not secretly fancy one and another. If that's the case, it's only a ticking alarm.  |
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Post by pacinoyes on Jan 14, 2024 15:47:12 GMT
Well obviously not an attractive man and woman ....what not funny?  Um, of course - although many of my closest female friends (not all) were at one time my mistakes luh-vahs (pacinoyes, naked - get THAT mental image out of your heads, Leftist wackjob Socialist atheist children)....... Also it helps if one of you - and in my case this is literally NEVER me - doesn't drink alcohol.........someone has to be sober and rational and you've seen the way I post ffs  |
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Post by LaraQ on Jan 14, 2024 15:57:16 GMT
Yeah absolutely.
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Post by cherry68 on Jan 14, 2024 18:04:39 GMT
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Post by wonky on Jan 14, 2024 19:23:59 GMT
I think the answer is obviously yes, but how likely of a "yes" depends on if we're talking about "friends" or "best friends" and if sexual/romantic interest is mutual, one-sided, or non-existent.
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Post by The_Cake_of_Roth on Jan 15, 2024 4:24:25 GMT
What wonky said... I’m married and have several close female friends, but I also think back to my past gfs and (just speaking for myself) I know I could have just been friends with them at the time if I had never started dating them – there was obviously sexual/romantic interest, but not the kind that would have gotten in the way of me maintaining a friendship with them.
My wife was a different case though because I fell for her pretty hard before she friendzoned me for several months lol, and it got to the point where I knew it would become very difficult just to be around her and stay friends (we were in the same grad program, so avoiding each other would have been impossible). I was so hopelessly smitten that if she hadn’t eventually come around to us dating, I would have had to minimize interaction with her and keep my distance as much as possible just so I could allow myself to move on.
So yeah, I think the answer to the question is yes of course it’s possible, but it depends on attraction level... and if the attraction happens to be (intensely) one-sided, then maybe the healthiest thing to do is for the lovelorn party to cut off contact, if possible, and discontinue friendship for the sake of their mental well-being (if that is being negatively affected).
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Post by urbanpatrician on Jan 15, 2024 7:17:45 GMT
My best friend is female. Going on 10 and a half years now. We speak to each other pretty much every day. We're great pen pals and all.
We joked about sex a few times, but we never had any real thoughts or feelings of anything non platonic, so I'd say yeahhhhh definitely to this question.
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Post by Martin Stett on Jan 15, 2024 15:15:37 GMT
What is a "friend"
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Post by cherry68 on Jan 15, 2024 16:20:59 GMT
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Post by Nikan on Jan 15, 2024 16:46:36 GMT
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Post by cherry68 on Jan 15, 2024 17:04:27 GMT
I've always had male friends. Actually very few female friends, and even nowadays my best friend is a guy.
My university (engineering) was very male oriented, and I was the only woman in my company.
My kids are both males.
I just can communicate with men more easily.
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Post by TylerDeneuve on Jan 15, 2024 20:57:19 GMT
I've always had male friends. Actually very few female friends, and even nowadays my best friend is a guy. My university (engineering) was very male oriented, and I was the only woman in my company. My kids are both males. I just can communicate with men more easily. Does your husband feel jealous of him at all? |
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Post by cherry68 on Jan 15, 2024 21:03:56 GMT
I've always had male friends. Actually very few female friends, and even nowadays my best friend is a guy. My university (engineering) was very male oriented, and I was the only woman in my company. My kids are both males. I just can communicate with men more easily. Does your husband feel jealous of him at all? Nah. He knows he doesn't court me. |
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Post by MsMovieStar on Jan 15, 2024 21:52:44 GMT
Oh honeys, yes of course, that's why you have friends' rate.
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Post by Nikan on Jan 15, 2024 22:22:18 GMT
I've always had male friends. Actually very few female friends, and even nowadays my best friend is a guy. My university (engineering) was very male oriented, and I was the only woman in my company. My kids are both males.
I just can communicate with men more easily. On another topic; do you like one just a little moe than another? wanna know if "the favorite child" is a myth or not  |
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Post by cherry68 on Jan 15, 2024 22:26:15 GMT
I've always had male friends. Actually very few female friends, and even nowadays my best friend is a guy. My university (engineering) was very male oriented, and I was the only woman in my company. My kids are both males.
I just can communicate with men more easily. On another topic; do you like one just a little moe than another? wanna know if "the favorite child" is a myth or not No. They have very different personalities so I don't treat them the same way, but I love them both. They're grown up now anyway (19 and 21). |
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