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Post by Nikan on Oct 5, 2023 10:09:54 GMT
and I know you could go "do you even check our celebrity crushes thread"? but they are celebrities... them being the standard of beauty and desirability for us is, um, normal... I mean everyday crushes. Projecting your wildest fantasies with a healthy amount of shame on your poor fellowmen or women... And to our more senior citizens  does it lower with age? I've heard something goes away when you're 40...  |
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Post by urbanpatrician on Oct 5, 2023 11:04:00 GMT
It happens
Where I live there's tons of really beautiful people. But some lose appeal once you zoom into the face - after initially being really attracted to the hair. But still if you have great hair, chances are you're at least overall decent, and dateable.
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Post by flasuss on Oct 5, 2023 11:23:02 GMT
Of course, it's inevitable. With experience, if you're smart, you learn not to dwell too much on it if there's no chance of the relationship going forward (say, it's a married co-worker), but there's really no control of the initial attraction at least
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Post by pacinoyes on Oct 5, 2023 11:26:09 GMT
"And to our more senior citizens does it lower with age? I've heard something goes away when you're 40... "
* Yeah I'mmina say that the only thing that goes away when you're 40 is being in your 30s......and in Rafael Nadal's case his hair and any claim that Clay Court Specialist ever had for being the Tennis GOAT  * I mean I dunno because I'm not 40 yet (stfu) and OMG, I'm a politically frightening leaning fuckwad who thinks Pete Buttijudgeamamamrammalamadingdingdong seems "smart" and he's gaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay........So impressive!........ Stop Climate Change! OK Boomer! * Let me ask you this pal - do you remember me from IMDB? Was I as political then as I am now? How about as religious? How about THIS petty and immature? Ask Puppy Ace in the Hole - about how "mature" I am now that I'm (theoretically) older..........as opposed to when he used to "miss me" awwwww....... wah wah wah ....was I "less" pacinoyes then than I am now......? I'mmina say nah...... * Ever see the Djokovic Tennis thread ffs? I mean how psychotic is my performance there? (not done btw........thanks) ............do I recommend good bands "less" now? Do you ever think to yourself "I'm really surprised pacinoyes doesn't enjoy Lucy Dacus and Julien Baker - they seem like something he'd like a lot?"  Was I "smarter" then? A better writer then? More witty then? Do I like David Bowie "less" now - or exactly the fncking same? (He's fine,he's fine, calm down people).......am I less funny? Or do you just get me more ..............or less now? Hmmmmmmmmm Do I point out Denzel Washington's weak sauce filmography "less" now? Pfffft * Nothing gets less when you get older tbh........nothing good, like in your crush scenario anyway.......... you just become a more monstrous version of yourself ........ ............and to answer your question in general: I an basically married, except legally (um) and what changes is your willingness to actually pursue your crush......... BUT I would blush like a schoolboy if my local coffee server - oh I am sorry barista......flirted with me which she totally does, daily btw..........and I'm sure she knows it since you know, I'm blushing and all red faced and shit......and sure that might just be because she's young and I'm a motherfucking time vampire while she's performing a submissive act for my money ............I mean this stuff writes itself sexually really ffs ...............BUT what was my point? So to answer your fncking question in a single word.......... pacino yes  [/spoiler]
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Post by Joaquim on Oct 5, 2023 13:44:13 GMT
"And to our more senior citizens does it lower with age? I've heard something goes away when you're 40... "
* Yeah I'mmina say that the only thing that goes away when you're 40 is being in your 30s......and in Rafael Nadal's case his hair and any claim that Clay Court Specialist ever had for being the Tennis GOAT * I mean I dunno because I'm not 40 yet (stfu) and OMG, I'm a politically frightening leaning fuckwad who thinks Pete Buttijudgeamamamrammalamadingdingdong seems "smart" and he's gaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay........So impressive!........ Stop Climate Change! OK Boomer! * Let me ask you this pal - do you remember me from IMDB? Was I as political then as I am now? How about as religious? How about THIS petty and immature? Ask Puppy Ace in the Hole - about how "mature" I am now that I'm (theoretically) older..........as opposed to when he used to "miss me" awwwww....... wah wah wah ....was I "less" pacinoyes then than I am now......? I'mmina say nah...... * Ever see the Djokovic Tennis thread ffs? I mean how psychotic is my performance there? (not done btw........thanks) ............do I recommend good bands "less" now? Do you ever think to yourself "I'm really surprised pacinoyes doesn't enjoy Lucy Dacus and Julien Baker - they seem like something he'd like a lot?" Was I "smarter" then? A better writer then? More witty then? Do I like David Bowie "less" now - or exactly the fncking same? (He's fine,he's fine, calm down people).......am I less funny? Or do you just get me more ..............or less now? Hmmmmmmmmm Do I point out Denzel Washington's weak sauce filmography "less" now? Pfffft * Nothing gets less when you get older tbh........nothing good, like in your crush scenario anyway.......... you just become a more monstrous version of yourself ........ ............and to answer your question in general: I an basically married, except legally (um) and what changes is your willingness to actually pursue your crush......... BUT I would blush like a schoolboy if my local coffee server - oh I am sorry barista......flirted with me which she totally does, daily btw..........and I'm sure she knows it since you know, I'm blushing and all red faced and shit......and sure that might just be because she's young and I'm a motherfucking time vampire while she's performing a submissive act for my money ............I mean this stuff writes itself sexually really ffs ...............BUT what was my point? So to answer your fncking question in a single word.......... pacino yes I like how this whole post is just pacinoyes lore until finally addressing the topic at hand at the end |
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Post by Martin Stett on Oct 5, 2023 18:22:19 GMT
No. If I get to know someone a bit and like them, then I become more attracted. I don't crush on a woman just because she's "hot" or something. Lots of women are "hot," so what?
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Post by Ryan_MYeah on Oct 5, 2023 19:47:22 GMT
It takes a minute, but yes.
The thing about Asexuality, at least in my experience, is that you may get crushes on people, but they’re fleeting. I actually find them inconvenient, because I know they either won’t last long, or most of the time my interest just fizzles anyway. Because I acknowledge it’s just a fantasy in my eyes. Because I know it isn’t actually serious, and even if I shoot my shot, I’m not under the illusion that it’s gonna lead to something serious.
I’ve fallen in love once in my entire life, and I’m still friends with her. But unless I feel that strongly connected with someone again, I’m not going to delude myself that the next pretty face I see means Church Bells.
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Post by The_Cake_of_Roth on Oct 6, 2023 6:23:35 GMT
No. If I get to know someone a bit and like them, then I become more attracted. I don't crush on a woman just because she's "hot" or something. Lots of women are "hot," so what? This pretty accurately describes my wife, who is demisexual (a term I wasn’t aware of until fairly recently when my wife first discovered it and was like “Hey, this is totally me!”). So it kind of took a while to convince her to date me initially... |
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Post by Nikan on Oct 6, 2023 7:57:24 GMT
No. If I get to know someone a bit and like them, then I become more attracted. I don't crush on a woman just because she's "hot" or something. Lots of women are "hot," so what? This pretty accurately describes my wife, who is demisexual (a term I wasn’t aware of until fairly recently when my wife first discovered it and was like “Hey, this is totally me!”). So it kind of took a while to convince her to date me initially... Isn't that every serious woman/suiter though? |
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Post by The_Cake_of_Roth on Oct 6, 2023 9:03:34 GMT
This pretty accurately describes my wife, who is demisexual (a term I wasn’t aware of until fairly recently when my wife first discovered it and was like “Hey, this is totally me!”). So it kind of took a while to convince her to date me initially... Isn't that every serious woman/suiter though? Well in my case, it took like 4 months for her to agree to go to a movie with me while we were friends at school and talked (substantively) all the time, so it was especially slow-going (she had never actually dated anyone before). Now, we just joke about how she friendzoned me for so long and how she feels bad about it now lol. |
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Post by Pittsnogle_Goggins on Oct 6, 2023 13:22:14 GMT
This pretty accurately describes my wife, who is demisexual (a term I wasn’t aware of until fairly recently when my wife first discovered it and was like “Hey, this is totally me!”). So it kind of took a while to convince her to date me initially... Isn't that every serious woman/suiter though? No |
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Post by Martin Stett on Oct 7, 2023 10:55:02 GMT
No. If I get to know someone a bit and like them, then I become more attracted. I don't crush on a woman just because she's "hot" or something. Lots of women are "hot," so what? This pretty accurately describes my wife, who is demisexual (a term I wasn’t aware of until fairly recently when my wife first discovered it and was like “Hey, this is totally me!”). So it kind of took a while to convince her to date me initially... I wouldn't say that I'm "demisexual," or whatever - I've had crushes as a teenager - just that I don't see the point of crushing now. I just see myself as having the slightest bit of self-control. |
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does it lower with age? I've heard something goes away when you're 40... 
