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Post by chris3 on Apr 1, 2019 6:42:37 GMT
We're all movie fans, and like a lot of obsessive hobby enthusiasts many of us tend to be lonely or anxious or dissatisfied with daily life, which is partly why we like to plug into the endlessly fascinating imagined worlds of art. Quite a few of us came from the IMDb boards (I was more of a lurker, but I did write an impassioned ICC intro to Gravity back in 2014 and participated in the MA board since '09), this is and has been a community of sorts, so I just figured I'd introduce a thread where MAR members can openly unload their issues, whatever they may be. Obviously I'd have to do this first, so here goes:
I'll do a relationship one. Last summer I broke up with a long-term girlfriend (6 and a half years) and proceeded to experience the worst six months of my entire life. She cheated on me and left me for the new guy. 2019 has been much better overall, but aside from a one-night hookup shortly after the end of my previous relationship, I've only recently begun reentering a dating mindset. I asked out a very cute bartender two weeks ago who offered me her number, we had two good dates that both ended in make-out sessions, and then the third date began tonight with her telling me she just wants to be friends. It took half a year to even attempt to whip up the courage to get back into the relationship stage, and out of nowhere I've seemed to immediately fail again. First world problems I know, but right now I feel like my body has just dissolved into steaming liquid swirling into a sewer grate.
Okay well that was maybe a benign issue, but it gets the ball rolling. And for those that think this is stupid, just know I'm going out on a limb on this so please be gentle with your critiques.
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Post by pacinoyes on Apr 1, 2019 11:04:28 GMT
Tbh not only don't I think this stuff is stupid it actually, weirdly made me happy to see such a thread - I found it sort of courageous just to have it chris3 . I make fun of this board a lot with those endless lists we do, but it's nice to have a space for this where people can just write their thoughts down.....like you put it "a community of sorts" - that's nice. Good luck in your relationship. I won't say some stupid stuff except it only takes one other person to be that person for you and 6 and half years is a long time to sort of re-set yourself and move forward. I'll put one out for myself - my job situation is insanely, almost comically shaky - like I have a really good job, I work at home mostly as much as I want, good pay - from the outside people looking in would say I have it made......... but if you look at it there's no work in my company for well over a year now. I work a lot too and always have liked it - I do everything a lot in general - but my job has now degenerated to endless nothing - basically managing email 6 days a week - usually when I'm on here, I'm at work and I'm on here because there is no actual work. I know, just enjoy the paycheck pacinoyes and I did that in 2018 - and yes this is not a problem at all - but it makes for a vague feeling of discomfort every day so far in 2019 and as for job satisfaction which I used to get big time.......that's like non-existent atm.
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Post by Archie on Jul 9, 2019 5:56:31 GMT
I ran over a dog a week ago. Went back and took the poor bastard off the road, put him by a marker in the grass and was able to contact the owner, so at least he knew.
I still feel like absolute shit. The poor dog's yelp will haunt me until the day I die.
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Post by TerryMontana on Jul 9, 2019 16:03:49 GMT
Six years ago I got this job and another guy, being there about 4 months before my arrival, educated me and taught me the nature of my work. After two years, he quit because he found something better and I became the head of my (small) departement. And I'm not bragging when I say I'm good in what I do. And now, due to many big changes in the company I work for, they're bringing the other guy back in order for him to become the head of the dpt!!!!! Of course with much better paycheck than I'll ever get...
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Post by Deleted on Jul 9, 2019 17:05:03 GMT
I pleaded guilty... To being fabulous.
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Post by Ryan_MYeah on Jul 9, 2019 17:41:25 GMT
I pleaded guilty... To being fabulous. Case on appeal.
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Post by TerryMontana on Jul 10, 2019 9:16:06 GMT
Six years ago I got this job and another guy, being there about 4 months before my arrival, educated me and taught me the nature of my work. After two years, he quit because he found something better and I became the head of my (small) departement. And I'm not bragging when I say I'm good in what I do. And now, due to many big changes in the company I work for, they're bringing the other guy back in order for him to become the head of the dpt!!!!! Of course with much better paycheck than I'll ever get... Push him off the building, case's closed. That's something I've considered. When I get the chance.....
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Post by MsMovieStar on Jul 12, 2019 7:50:26 GMT
Oh honeys, I'm worried that people won't take me seriously because I'm too beautiful. I make my assistant think about this day & night and it's making her sick. I just don't want to end up as one of those effortlessly stylish, rich women whose lives are empty because they've had it too easy because of their looks... I fear I'll lose touch with reality and all I'll have left to cling onto is, macrobiotic diets, my own home shopping channel and regular double page spreads in People. Dear God! Please don't make me turn out like Gwyneth!
I'd love to be nicer to people, I really would... I've even considered getting a stand-in... but I fear that if I'm nice to people they'll just think I'm a pretty nobody. I really need a Melania type role on the world stage, where I know I won't be ignored. Have they forgotten what a star looks like? I'll show them! I'll be up there one day so help me!
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Post by MsMovieStar on Jul 12, 2019 8:21:55 GMT
Tbh not only don't I think this stuff is stupid it actually, weirdly made me happy to see such a thread - I found it sort of courageous just to have it chris3 . I make fun of this board a lot with those endless lists we do, but it's nice to have a space for this where people can just write their thoughts down.....like you put it "a community of sorts" - that's nice. Good luck in your relationship. I won't say some stupid stuff except it only takes one other person to be that person for you and 6 and half years is a long time to sort of re-set yourself and move forward. I'll put one out for myself - my job situation is insanely, almost comically shaky - like I have a really good job, I work at home mostly as much as I want, good pay - from the outside people looking in would say I have it made......... but if you look at it there's no work in my company for well over a year now. I work a lot too and always have liked it - I do everything a lot in general - but my job has now degenerated to endless nothing - basically managing email 6 days a week - usually when I'm on here, I'm at work and I'm on here because there is no actual work.
I know, just enjoy the paycheck pacinoyes and I did that in 2018 - and yes this is not a problem at all - but it makes for a vague feeling of discomfort every day so far in 2019 and as for job satisfaction which I used to get big time.......that's like non-existent atm.
Oh honey, I couldn't help noticing your message... and it wasn't just the word, 'atm'. Are you Nicole's second Oscar win speech writer?
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Post by MsMovieStar on Jul 12, 2019 20:06:06 GMT
Oh honey, I couldn't help noticing your message... and it wasn't just the word, 'atm'. Are you Nicole's second Oscar win speech writer?
You know, her people no longer speak to me since they wanted me to do a puff piece for her which she gets every night on Extra and Access Hollywood. Anyway they sent me this photo below with the words "Kidman Destroyer!" and I sarcastically replied - well she looks looks positively ghastly in that photo, but her "acting" performance in that film is far worse - which of those 2 things did they want me to destroy her for specifically? Within 4 hours I received a cease and desist letter, an 8 X 12 publicity shot with what I assume was Nicole's bloody handprint smeared on it and strangely a Keith Urban guitar pick and a mini bottle of Neutrogena Wrinkle Repair which I've been understandably reluctant to try.
Oh honey, I'm jealous! At least you've had a cease n desist letter which is more than I've had... You'd think I would have had something since I singlehandedly kept her career alive with my routine, especially during her disgrace of monaco, queen of the deserted flops, When I send you to sleep, years... otherwise she might have disappeared with a whisper. All I've ever received are threats from her Kidmaniacs (We'll find you. We'll get you when you are sleeping... you'll wake up and not be able to move your face ever again! We'll shave your hair so you have to get a loyalty card to Waynes Wig Mart, etc)...
I've heard that NASA use Neutrogena Wrinkle Repair to mend their space stations as it can withstand gravity... and meteor storms. In space, nobody can hear you scream...
Anyway, even though this thread is for those with issues, and I suppose my are well known, I'd better behave myself.
Oh honey, why not use your paid work time to write a screenplay or a novel?
I've started writing my autobiography, Wasted Days, Wasted Nights as I'm sure that Doubleday will be wanting it soon... for one of those billion dollar book / movie deals. I think Tarantino would be interested, especially as my thoughts get quite violent at the mention of Ni...
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Post by Zeb31 on Sept 7, 2019 4:04:22 GMT
Remaining friends with exes... yields mixed results.
Very much not the greatest feeling in the world.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 7, 2019 5:07:08 GMT
Remaining friends with exes Why would it ever cross your mind to do this
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Post by Zeb31 on Sept 7, 2019 5:38:29 GMT
Remaining friends with exes Why would it ever cross your mind to do this I don't have much of a choice, really. My ex and I are in the same extended group of friends (it's how we met and everything) and that group gets together like once or twice a week. So either one of us cuts ties with the rest (which I'm not gonna do, and neither will she) or we just deal with it and learn to be around each other. Ours was about as amicable and mature a break-up as I could ever have hoped for and it's clear that there's still a lot of affection and mutual respect between us, but still. We don't fight or anything, we're just... perpetually reminded of what we had and lost while we each try our best to accept that the one person who used to know us better than anybody else in the world up until a year ago is now barely even there. Some days are easier than others, and tonight hasn't been the easiest.
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Post by theycallmemrfish on Sept 16, 2019 0:47:39 GMT
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Post by erickeitel on Sept 16, 2019 21:44:08 GMT
I felt like sobriety would be its own reward—and to an extent, it is. I’m saving money, no waking up with an upset stomach, but the truth is I keep being reminded of why I drink in the first place.
The road to clean mental health is paved with potholes.
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Post by pacinoyes on Mar 25, 2021 14:44:47 GMT
I'll put one out for myself - my job situation is insanely, almost comically shaky - like I have a really good job, I work at home mostly as much as I want, good pay - from the outside people looking in would say I have it made......... but if you look at it there's no work in my company for well over a year now. I work a lot too and always have liked it - I do everything a lot in general - but my job has now degenerated to endless nothing - basically managing email 6 days a week - usually when I'm on here, I'm at work and I'm on here because there is no actual work. I know, just enjoy the paycheck pacinoyes and I did that in 2018 - and yes this is not a problem at all - but it makes for a vague feeling of discomfort every day so far in 2019 and as for job satisfaction which I used to get big time.......that's like non-existent atm. ^ Man, there is a massive lay-off happening today at my job. Only a few lay-offs in the US in general - but a ton in India and at key European centers. Major bummer - this is the first big mass layoff really in a while when everyone thought it would have happened ages ago ...... i can see people I've worked with for years just disappearing because their work accounts have been discontinued right now. Damn......
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Post by MsMovieStar on Mar 25, 2021 15:06:22 GMT
I'll put one out for myself - my job situation is insanely, almost comically shaky - like I have a really good job, I work at home mostly as much as I want, good pay - from the outside people looking in would say I have it made......... but if you look at it there's no work in my company for well over a year now. I work a lot too and always have liked it - I do everything a lot in general - but my job has now degenerated to endless nothing - basically managing email 6 days a week - usually when I'm on here, I'm at work and I'm on here because there is no actual work. I know, just enjoy the paycheck pacinoyes and I did that in 2018 - and yes this is not a problem at all - but it makes for a vague feeling of discomfort every day so far in 2019 and as for job satisfaction which I used to get big time.......that's like non-existent atm. ^ Man, there is a massive lay-off happening today at my job. Only a few lay-offs in the US in general - but a ton in India and at key European centers. Major bummer - this is the first big mass layoff really in a while when everyone thought it would have happened ages ago ...... i can see people I've worked with for years just disappearing because their work accounts have been discontinued right now. Damn...... Oh honey, I'm so sorry. I didn't even know you had a job (some people are really secretive)! Will you be OK?
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Post by pacinoyes on Mar 25, 2021 15:34:29 GMT
^ Man, there is a massive lay-off happening today at my job. Only a few lay-offs in the US in general - but a ton in India and at key European centers. Major bummer - this is the first big mass layoff really in a while when everyone thought it would have happened ages ago ...... i can see people I've worked with for years just disappearing because their work accounts have been discontinued right now. Damn...... Oh honey, I'm so sorry. I didn't even know you had a job (some people are really secretive)! Will you be OK? It's ridiculous Legend, working at my age.............I could break a hip dammit! I'm allegedly safe from the lay-off (and also MAR message board banishment, um kidding) which is very lucky given the amount of money that I spend on booze in a typical month Really feel bad for my colleagues in India who worked very hard for a long time and that whole location was almost let go today - quite surprising.......
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Post by MsMovieStar on Mar 25, 2021 16:17:31 GMT
Oh honey, I'm so sorry. I didn't even know you had a job (some people are really secretive)! Will you be OK? It's ridiculous Legend, working at my age.............I could break a hip dammit! I'm allegedly safe from the lay-off (and also MAR message board banishment, um kidding) which is very lucky given the amount of money that I spend on booze in a typical month Really feel bad for my colleagues in India who worked very hard for a long time and that whole location was almost let go today - quite surprising....... Oh honey, I wish I could say something to make it feel better, apart from fix yourself a drink and try not to think about it. I find it helps to always remember that as one chapter comes to an end, another begins... well that's what is says... in this book.
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Post by ireallyamsomething on Mar 26, 2021 22:00:20 GMT
I have been having trouble sleeping for the last couple or so weeks. Getting barely 2 hours of sleep at night. Groggy all day, somehow managing to work. My psychiatrist isn't replying to my texts either, so that is fun.
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Post by Johnny_Hellzapoppin on Mar 27, 2021 1:02:22 GMT
So, a bit about my last year, when I was pretty much away from here.
Been working from home since March 12th last year, which was nice at first, and it still does have its benefits, but it is tough going a lot of the time too. Still, I know I'm lucky, as so many people around the world have been temporarily or even worse permanently put out of work. I'm lucky enough to have a job, which is hugely secure and I've been in for now 14 years. Unfortunately, I'm very very tired of that job, to the point were it makes me miserable a lot of the time. I had fully intended to move on from if in 2020. Whether it was a new job or taking a leap into the unknown and trying out a whole new educational path, I was all set to go. Then the virus hits and I'm stuck!
Yes, as I said I'm one of the lucky ones. I'm in a secure, well paid job. Still, when you go from miserable to trapped and miserable; that's a kick in the dick. Combine that with the fact that the last year or so has been the busiest in the 14 years I've worked where I do, my brain was so tired and frazzled all the time. There were several stretches over the last year when I felt mentally unhealthy for the first time in my life.
So I thought, when works ends of a day, you need to keep yourself away from screens and just chill. Hence my absence here. It doesn't work though, when work life invades your home life and your in a lock down, it's just a constant. It's always there. The same everything is always there.
Anyway ramble over and get to a point.
I started talking to the people in my life about how unhappy I was and it helped. It helped a lot. When you feel like shit, talking about it to yourself in your head doesn't help much, but opening up honesty about it to the people who care about does.
Yes I'm still stuck in the same crappy situation I was a year ago, but I can see a light at the end of the tunnel now. A large part of 2021 is still not going to be ideal, but I'm ready for things to be better.
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